Karl and Carl’s road to becoming parents was a roller coaster experience. Â They booked their first egg donor in late 2008 and it took a full year and a half, and three donors by the time everything was said and done, for their twin boys to make their debut. Â Throughout it all they remained positive, flexible and committed to making their dreams of parenthood a reality. Â A big CONGRATULATIONS from everybody here at BHED!
Archive for June, 2010
Donation Offers a New Beginning
Thursday, June 3rd, 2010Becoming an egg donor was one of the easiest decisions I have ever made.  From the moment I learned about egg donation, I was convinced that it was something that I wanted to do.  Unfortunately, it was because of an awful experience that I discovered egg donation, but I’ve learned that often good things can come of tragedy.  I had an abortion in May of 2009, and afterwards I started researching the possibility of being a surrogate mother to an individual or couple.  It was then that I discovered egg donation and immediately committed to the idea.  I didn’t even know it was a possibility until I stumbled across it in my research.
When I got pregnant, I was on birth control (Nuva Ring). Â The shock of the pregnancy was nothing compared to the horror of realizing that the man I was with at the time was not a very nice person. Â In the same week that I learned of my pregnancy, I learned that he was doing drugs when I was not around, and when I told him the news he became violent and angry. Â I ended the relationship and went home to live with my mother. Â When I made the decision to have an abortion I think I must have cried for two weeks, but I believe I made the best decision that I could have at the time. Â It is because of that horrible experience that I am so excited to donate to another individual or couple.
I’m now engaged to a wonderful guy, and I know that there will be a time when I welcome a pregnancy (even an unexpected one). Â I am so happy that I will be able to have a family with him someday, and it is important to me to be able to give that same chance to someone who is ready. Â Anyone going to such great lengths to start a family truly deserves to have that, and if I can help that happen I would be honored. Â In a small way I feel like I am giving back what I took away, even though I know that I can never undo or nullify the abortion. Â My primary motivation, however, is to help someone bring a child into the world. Â The whole process of egg donation and IVF is an extension of the miracle of creating life and I am grateful and happy to be able to lend myself to such an amazing purpose.
- BHED donor, Maggie #8228
